Thursday, May 14, 2009

Parenting tip

I have a three year old toddler who is very strong minded, by this I mean ; if there is something she desires to have , she has to have it at the time of asking.At times giving into her requests poses no problem at all. But at times I must say 'No', and being a toddler she doesn't understand that;so she cries and screams the roof off as a result of not getting what she desires.

As a parent these times can be especially difficult , especially for those that may not have any tolerance for cries and screams .Patience is definitely required in situations such as this .But for those that do not have much patience, just try to put your toddler in a safe, comfortable spot on the chair or bed , leave the room and let your toddler cry it out.If your toddler follows you while you are leaving the room , then I suggest maybe wearing some air plugs to drown out the noise.

Of course the best way is to try to comfort and distract your crying toddler with other than what he or she has asked for .Some parents who do not have much tolerance ,get frustrated and hence resort to spanking their toddlers.I cannot stress enough , that this action will not help to calm the cries of your toddler.Also, why would you actually be spanking your toddler? for crying! Instead of spanking the poor darling for his right to cry, walk away , they will stop crying eventually and perhaps even fall asleep as a result.

This may seem a bit harsh to some folks , but you can't give a child everything they want all the time.Sometimes what they desire is not what is best for them and it becomes necessary to say 'No', and when you have said 'No' it is important that you do not give in . Your child will eventually learn that when you say 'No' , 'NO' means 'No'.Saying 'No' can be a tough job for any parent , but it sometimes has to be done .